My aunt last journey was held on 11 December 08.
We went for the ritual .. as we are the younger generation.
My aunt had not much friends, when she is around.
so we like to make it a crowded one,
hence we, the few cousins helped in the ritual.

Arriving at the cremation, my cousins cry & cry.
Seeing them heartbroken, i couldnt bring but to tear with them.
for my 22 years, i had never seen my 2nd uncle.
he came for all 5 days, and he cried !!!
which makes me feel that he isnt bad at all.
he son chase him out of the house, and he have no place to stay,
but my aunt take him in.
So the brother & sister relationship should be quite close.
i wanna helped him .. but i dunno how to help ..
i wanna talked to him, makes him happy, so that he wont feels he is alone.
but my teo chew not good .. so cant communicate.
But at least i tried.

my cousin said:"Why must we only gather with everyone only at such occasion"
After hearing i really felt disappointed.
and i question myself:"Why??"
Why must we only learn when we lost someone?
why must we get affected by the elder generation?
why people bear grudges?
why cant people be more forgiving?

i still leaves it as a question.

Anyway .. My family n myself strive hard to helped my cousins & uncle to
tied through the hard time of the wake.
On Saturday we went down to the ancestor place to pray my aunt.
My cousins & uncle sincerely thanks us for helping them at their weakest point.
But i was touched .. So silly of them ..
what are family for?

Hope my aunt will be happy
and hopes she looks upon her family =D